Part deaf dating the hearing people
Part deaf dating the hearing people - men online dating tips
A recent thread on Reddit featured a 20-year-old deaf woman who said she really wanted to have sex, but she was scared to. I was legally deaf, but I had a tiny bit of hearing.She said she worried about how she would sound to the people she had sex with, especially since she'd read a lot of comments online that mocked deaf people having sex. Referring to myself as deaf made me feel like all hope for me ever being able to hear was lost.
By the time I was 18 months old, I was declared profoundly deaf, meaning I cannot hear anything.
In this week's Sex Talk Realness, spoke with three women who are deaf to find out what it's really like to date as someone who is differently abled. Now, I have started to refer to myself as deaf because I no longer think it's such a bad thing.
Woman A: In the past, I liked "hearing impaired" or "hard of hearing." I didn't like to refer to myself as being deaf because to me, being deaf meant I had absolutely no hearing.
Woman B: I honestly don't have a preference between uppercase and lowercase d/Deaf.
I see making a distinction between the two often divides the culturally proud Deaf from those who have a similar experience and shared oppressions, but are maybe not friends with tons of Deaf people or what have you (because of accessibility and other factors).
There's never really a point when I asked myself, "Will my lack of hearing impact this experience?
" Sex is about what you communicate with your partner.
Woman B: My current partner and I tend to speak or sign beforehand about what we like/don't like.
If it's in the act, I'll usually just say "nope." There's really no need to articulate why it isn't working right in the moment, since it kills the mood.
Woman A: I had my first boyfriend at 14, but not a "real" one until I was 21. Woman C: I didn't have an official date until my freshman year of high school.
Woman A: Prior to getting my cochlear implants, it was hard for me to date the guy I was seeing at the time because I couldn't hear him well and he'd get frustrated.
We're people with the same needs, wants, desires, and interests as anyone else.