Dating and marriage in japan
Dating and marriage in japan - dating foreigners korea
I guess that if the average Japanese man loses interest in his wife once she becomes a mother, there is no problem with children either.The typical reaction of Westerners is that they would be afraid of crushing their new-born baby by sleeping in the same bed, but it apparently never happens in reality (of all mammals, only male sealions and pandas sometime crush their babies to death when sleeping with them, but never humans, it would seem).
If love disappears, people tend to divorce easily (except sometimes when there are small children, to avoid perturbing them psychologically).In contrast, Western countries, and particularly those with roots in ancient Celtic and Germanic cultures, tend to be individualistic.Without starting a debate on the merits on individualistic vs collectvistic cultures, one obvious negative aspect of collectvism is that it discourages to think critically by themselves - a serious issue for Japanese educators.For international couples who do continue to have an active sexual life, I was told little babies can sleep very well even with the parents doing whatever they please right beside them.But they should have their own room from the age of 3 or 4 then.The romantic ideal of marriage is what motivated gay and lesbian people in Western countries to fight to their right to get married.
Marriage in the West is first and foremost a way to formally recognize the loving bond between two people.
The only drawback I can think of is the independence factor.
All cultures that practise communal sleeping between parents and children are collectivist cultures.
Here is a temptative summary of what I've learned from my social interactions in Japan.
I've also talked with some Korean friends and it seems that Korean and Japanese ways of thinking are very similar regarding the following matter.
Even in love marriages, once a woman has a baby, her husband regards her as a mother, not a woman anymore, which means their sexual life typically comes to an end.